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Failed Relationships
by Liana Magliocco, Staff Writer
Why do relationships fail? It's a combination of many things,
cheating, loss of interest, personality changes and the all time
favorite, drama.
In high school you can never take relationships too
seriously. As much as it's nice to believe that people's "best
friends" will be their forever, it's hardly the case. People are too
fixated on being popular and being liked that they never let their
real self shine through. When people are their true self, that's
when they make real friendships. The term "I love you" is thrown
around too much these days just like "best friends". If you have to
impress the people whom you consider to be your best friends, then
they're not. And if you can't be honest with them and tell them how
you feel, regardless of how they might react then you're kidding
yourself to think you best friends. Life is about real friends,
whether they're your "best" or not. If you can honestly say they are
your friend and they like you for that... then that's a friendship.
ADVICE: Like people for who they are or don't like them
at all. Don't try to make them into someone their not that can only
cause more problems.
It's really all about "acceptance" not "tolerance"
because if you're tolerant of someone, you're just okay with who
they are but may not like it, but if your accepting of someone, you
know who they are and despite their faults are willing to be there
and believe in them no matter what. The same goes for you. If you
can't look into the mirror and say "This is me and this is who I am
whether people like it or not" you've failed yourself. At the end of
the day what's more important: that you've made yourself happy with
being you or being popular by being someone your not. Think about
it, it's quality of your life that matters not the quantity of the
people in it.
Drama can make even the toughest friendships fail
because at some point it's just too much, and, well, its high school
aka drama central. What's even harder is when the drama involves you
and a close friend, and by 5th period that day fifty people are
asking you about it and taking sides.
ADVICE: If someone has a problem let THEM deal it. It
only makes matters worse to jump in on a personal fight, not only
for their sake but for yours also.
Now for intimate relationships. Why do people break up?
Well it's a number of things. First off, infidelity. If someone
cheats on someone else for whatever reason, it's still cheating.
If your "partner" (for lack of a better word) isn't
pleasing you or you are not pleasing your partner, then end it.
ADVICE: We date for a reason: to learn what we like in
others and to find compatible matches. If three months into a
relationship you find he/she's not the one for you, let them go,
don't sneak behind their back and cheat. It's simpler, less painful,
and overall causes less drama, to just be honest.
Lastly, there's communication. This goes for
boyfriends, girlfriends, best friends, or just friends. Communicate.
Talk to people. It's the best way to let others know how you feel
and who you are. Nothing is more powerful than words, and being
educated high school students, one would think we'd use our
knowledge to express ourselves in ways that benefited us and others.
Words can make or break us, but as long as they are your words,
that's all that matters.
ADVICE: Open up, be heard. We have mouths and minds for
a reason. Don't let anyone pressure or silence you.
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